Many people have asked this question and many
scientists have searched for the answer. It is one of those unexplained
phenomena that stumps those that only believe in things that are scientifically
proven. I, for one, have watched far too many romance movies and have read far
too many romance novels. When making these fake ideals of love your own reality
it is hard to expect less from a relationship.
No relationship I have had thus far has been perfect. They were nothing
like the story of Cinderella and her prince or the amazing love stories
portrayed in my favorite romance novels.
A very wise friend of mine once told
me that after five years the chemicals that caused you to be attracted to
someone in the first place ware off and then instead of being deeply in love
your relationship either ends or is morphed into a deep friendship with the
occasional occurrence of sexual relations.
True love is always something that I
wanted to believe in. When I look around at all of the couples around me it
makes it difficult to believe that true love is anything but a fantasy. I do think that there is one perfect person
out there for everyone, but the likelihood of you running in to that person is
slim to none. You could spend your whole life looking for them and never find
them. This does not mean that you will not fall in love. You will fall in love
and it will happen many times.
My Dad always said that you marry the person you
are dating when you are ready to get married. I think that this is true for
most people. You are ready to get married you are in love and you get married.
In an article written by John Harlow and Brendan Montague they discuss the fact
that, in recent studies, scientists have done brain scans on couples that have
been together for 20 years and a small percentage of those couples responded
with as much passion as they did when they were first falling in love with each
other. They found that these couples
have “love maps” that are a lot like that of animals that mate for life and
that their relationship morphed into a more “Intensive companionship where they
can experience more sexual liveliness.”
Basically, the article is saying that scientific
proof of true love has been found, but it is still very rare in humans. It is
something that most humans want and something that they strive for with every
part of their being, but it is one of the rarest and beautiful phenomena on the
earth and those that do find it are extremely lucky. The other 85% of the world settles for an
imperfect love that requires constant work, and there is nothing wrong with
this, until they lose the motivation to work at it.
True love is a wonderful thing, and I hope that
everyone who reads this finds it in its most perfect and beautiful form.
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